If you are going to resolve conflict, the first thing you want to do is find the problem. After you have done that, you want to generate possible options. Let’s suppose you are in conflict with some other people and you’ve agreed to sit down to work it out. Their first impulse is to come up with what they think is the “right” solution. My recommendation is to come up with multiple options; certainly more than two, preferably three or more. If you have paper, write them all down. You will have a temptation to evaluate the options as they are suggested. I recommend that you withhold evaluation and that they do so as well. Generate multiple options and you will see that the more options that are available, the less conflict there is.