When you ask for help from others, they will say yes;
When they give you help, you have more resources;
When they say yes, give you the help, and have more resources you are now more powerful!
So, it is insane to prevent the very thing that works best!
Dr. Mitchell Perry
ENGAGE THE POWER OF RELATIONSHIPS: ASK FOR HELP!
Human beings need contact, closeness, and affiliation. Connection is so important that solitary confinement is often used in prison as a means of punishment. People are generally happier when they feel close, connected, loved, and appreciated.
And, the most common psychological disorder in people is depression. What is depression? Depression sets in when the gap is too wide between how one thinks life should be vs. how it is. And the biggest contributor to depression is loneliness, feeling rejected, alienated, disconnected, and separate from other people.
SO THE MESSAGE IS ALWAYS… GET CONNECTED!
And here is a great way to make that connection!
Notice how often you can get more done with people helping. And, notice how often you want to ask someone for help, but are reluctant either because you are afraid you may be turned down, or you will be perceived as weak.
Be reminded of the following axiom:
- The first impulse most people have when OFFERED help is to say NO!
- And, the news is… the first impulse most people have when asked for help is to say YES!
So, remember to engage the power of relationships by asking for help! To do that, you must change the association you may have between asking for help and appearing weak. Rather than associate WEAKNESS with the thought of asking for help, associate STRENGTH instead. Besides, when you do get help, and the resources you need, are you now weaker or actually stronger?
People like to feel important and asking for help or advice is a great way of making someone feel valued.
So, start a new behavior pattern… associate strength with asking for help. Then, start connecting with people and find strength in the power of the group Engage the power of relationships and replace the “you or me” with “you and me.”
Ask for help regularly!
POLITICIANS ALWAYS REMAIN THE SAME IT SEEMS… WHISKEY
In 1952, Armon M. Sweat, Jr., a member of the Texas House of Representatives, was asked about his position on whiskey. What follows is his exact answer (taken from the Political Archives of Texas).
“If you mean whiskey, the devil’s brew, the poison scourge, the bloody monster that defiles innocence, dethrones reason, destroys the home, creates misery and poverty, yea, literally takes the bread from the mouths of little children; if you mean that evil drink that topples Christian men and women from the pinnacles of righteous and gracious living into the bottomless pit of degradation, shame, despair, helplessness, and hopelessness, then, my friend, I am opposed to it with every fiber of my being.
However, if by whiskey you mean the lubricant of conversation, the philosophic juice, the elixir of life, the liquid that is consumed when good fellows get together, that puts a song in their hearts and the warm glow of contentment in their eyes; if you mean Christmas cheer, the stimulating sip that puts a little spring in the step of an elderly gentleman on a frosty morning; if you mean that drink that enables man to magnify his joy, and to forget life’s great tragedies and heartbreaks and sorrow; if you mean that drink the sale of which pours into Texas treasuries untold millions of dollars each year, that provides tender care for our little crippled children, our blind, our deaf, our dumb, our pitifully aged and infirm, to
build the finest highways, hospitals, universities, and community colleges in this nation, then my friend, I am absolutely, unequivocally in favor of it.
This is my position, and as always, I refuse to compromise on matters of principle.
“IT’S FIVE O’CLOCK SOMEWHERE!”