Dr. Perry’s Couple’s Camp Is On KVTA This Saturday!

You are invited to Couple’s Camp part 1 on my next radio show! Make a point to listen to the show with your sweetheart. Tune up your union! Put on your bathrobe, and slippers and cozy in to Couple’s Camp. That and more on my NEXT RADIO SHOW – Sat., Feb 18. “THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW – APPLIED COMMON SENSE” – Sat. mornings – 9:00-11:00am (PST)- KVTA AM 1520 on the radio or log on towww.kvta.com 

Couples’ Cruise to Alaska


Join this Couples’ Cruise with renowned relationship expert, Dr. Mitchell Perry, on the magnificent Celebrity Infinity sailing the beauty and magic of Alaska. Enjoy his funny and informative sessions on relationships, love and strengthening your union.

Whether you are going steady, engaged, married or trying it one more time, this cruise is for you and your sweetheart.

Sessions by Dr. Perry:

  • What’s going on with us? How are we doing?
  • What do you want from me?
  • What kind of relationship is ours?
  • Why are we together?
  • What gets in our way?
  • What will we now do differently?

Download a flyer here.


Dr. Perry is a dynamic human behavior expert, an executive coach, trainer, speaker, author, and board-certified psychotherapist. His Ventura, California, based company, JM Perry Learning, has been a leading education and performance consulting firm since 1976.

My husband keeps asking me what is different, keeps shaking his head and staring, saying I am so much more attractive than before. Everything is exactly the same… Can’t wait to see what’s next…
– Linda E.

Thanks for your contribution in this transformation. I am “positively” thrilled and looking forward to more champagne.
– Sarah B.

About Dr. Mitchell Perry Couples’ Cruise to Alaska

Sail on the recently refurbished Infinity, completed in November 2011. She boasts the new hip Celebrity iLounge SM where you can participate in the iLearn enrichment series. Get ready to have a unique, memorable dinner at the innovative QsineSM restaurant, where you order from an iPad®. Finish with a chilled Peartini at the ice-topped Martini Bar. Plus more staterooms, more verandas, an expanded art collection, and completely new décor throughout. Don’t miss out on a new way to get away and make the most of your precious vacation days.

Contact Us for more information or to book your trip.

February 2012

The Perry Perspective
Hello Everyone!

The prison of dependency is very expensive.  To deliberately opt to be dependent and then complain about the very situation you chose is a new level of insanity. 

Dr. Mitchell Perry 


The fascinating thing is how many people deliberately opt for a dependency existence either personally, professionally, emotionally, and/or financially… then they spend their lives complaining and remaining hostage to the very condition for which they opted. 
Some examples to consider:
Government Workers (the Public Sector) – They tend to go down a path that is often predetermined.  They trade their control over their destiny for the illusion that security is worth it.  They then are mostly rewarded by how LONG they have been working, rather than how WELL they are working.  Many often remain miserable people and expect a predictable pay grade, lifestyle, etc., all the while remaining malcontents simply because they choose to remain hostage to a situation that keeps them dependent. 
Good-looking Women (sex objects) who are with rich men (success objects) – Many of these women often go after men with money to gain the dependence on emotional and financial security (an illusion of safety), however, once they get the commitment they want from the man, many tend to change and treat the guy badly… they become critical, demanding, disapproving, and pejorative simply because they are dependent and are now “hostage” in their heads, to the man.  The very dependency they wanted is the very situation that now reminds them of their own weakness.  Therefore, they blame the guy and treat him badly.  (The more you give up responsibility for yourself, the more it makes you continually blame others for your condition.)
Healthcare Workers, Shift Workers at the Company Plant, and Retail Service Representatives.  For example, thirty years ago, being a flight attendant was a glamorous job with great pay, perks, and benefits  Over the years things have clearly changed… working conditions, passenger behavior, grooming, and the entire travelling experience.  I think this job is the last thing many flight attendants thought they would be doing thirty years later.  Clearly many of them appear to often feel hostage to the job because of seniority, vesting, or they are clueless as to what else they would be doing.  This has made many of them bitter and filled with TDC (thinly disguised contempt).  Therefore, it appears many often want the customers to enjoy their unhappiness.  Once again, the very dependency they opted for has made them hostage and therefore, weak, powerless, and unhappy. 
Divorce Agreements – It is clear that couples who are unable to reach agreement in divorce settlements are often very unhappy and complaining when the final disillusion decision is made by the courts.  The more the couple is dependent on the decisions of the judge, the more it creates anger and complaints.  On the other hand, couples who take responsibility together to arrive at acceptable divorce settlements tend to accept the results and move on with their lives with less complaining and going back to court. 
The Fabric of Society
As so many more people continue to adopt the ENTITLEMENT attitude where the “WHAT HAVE YOU DONE FOR ME LATELY?” perspective becomes ubiquitous, I expect that more and more people will give up control over their lives to government, disability support, dipping into the public treasury, unions, welfare, entitlements, etc., which simply continues to insure their unhappiness/misery as a consequence of wanting to be dependent.  As more people opt to be dependent, they want to be taken care of, and therefore, their initiative, self-respect, performance, and control over their lives evaporates.  Thus the omnipresent dependency addiction simply sucks the life out of society. 

Presently, according to a recent article, 48% of all families in the US today are dipping into the public treasury somehow.  This means that approximately half of the population is opting to be dependent on the other half… all while complaining and whining.  And, certainly the half that is paying is getting really tired of enabling the dependent people to remain dependent and whining. 

So it seems that people with this dependency addiction have 3 options:
Continue as they are, expect to be dependent, avoid responsibility for their lives, and keep complaining / whining. 
Continue the dependency behavior, except quit the complaining and whining.  Simply accept the security and keep quiet.
Decide to take responsibility / control for their lives and future, act more independent, take more initiative, and be more proactive. 

Abraham Lincoln said, “You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.  You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.  You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.  You cannot lift the wage earner up by pulling the wage payer down.  You cannot further the brotherhood of man by inciting class hatred.  You cannot build character and courage by taking away people’s initiative and independence.  You cannot help people permanently by doing for them, what they could and should do for themselves.” 

It is time for us as a large group of citizens to grow up, establish more backbone, take responsibility for ourselves, appreciate what we have and quit demanding to be taken care of.

Further, if you remain dependent, then quit complaining about the very condition for which you opted. 

Only when you take responsibility for your life, your behavior, your decisions, and your future can you develop some real solid self-respect.  And, self-respect is critical if you want to like what you see in the mirror. 


And remember, Common Sense is very uncommon!

 Strength of Character
Gaining competitive advantage by raising the bar

Strength of Character explores integrity, responsibility, and generosity of spirit in the business setting, driving a stake into the ground and defining the ethical standards by which business will need to be practiced in the coming decades.  This CD explains how leaders and workers can set a new course towards character standards that we all can agree are compelling and necessary.  The magic begins when individuals accept responsibility and start making ethical changes in themselves.   

Strength of Character CD:       $19.95
Strength of Character MP3:     $16.95

NOTICE!  Many of Dr. Perry’s recordings are available on iTunes and Amazon.


Join this Couples’ Cruise with renowned relationship expert
Dr. Mitchell Perry on the magnificent ship touring the beauty and magic of Alaska.

Enjoy his funny, lively, and informative sessions on relationships, love, and strengthening your union.

Whether you are:
            going steady,
            been together for many years,
            or trying it one more time,
            this cruise is perfect for you and your sweetheart.

This voyage with Dr. Perry is limited to 50 couples, and be sure to make reservations early as the first 5 couples to sign up will be able to attend an additional exclusive private workshop with Dr. Perry during the voyage.

This adventure is the perfect combination of experiencing:
The majesty of Alaska
Cruising aboard the beautiful Celebrity Cruise Ship – Infinity
How to tune-up your relationship with more love, fun, intimacy, commitment, and passion.
Every Couple attending will laugh, learn, and love the experience!


 Couples Camp 
Couples Camp is a private, confidential way to look at your relationship with your partner. Listen to this 4-hour program along with your partner and you will learn how to improve it, restore the quality of it, maintain the quality of it, or fix what is broken. Whether you’re married, in a committed relationship, or thinking about taking your current relationship to the next level, this 4-hour Couples Camp is for you.

Together we will ask and answer the following:
          What is the foundation of our relationship?
          What do we want from each other?
          What kind of relationship do we have?
          What is wrong in our relationship?
          What is right with our relationship?

Couples Camp MP3 download only:   $39.95

 Dr. Perry on You Tube
 The Magic is in the obvious… so, Embrace Common Sense!

As we all know, common sense is very uncommon!  That is why we have  put together some video vignettes that are sensible, prudent, practical, logical, and reflecting sound judgement. 
There are now TEN video vignettes on several subjects including:
Responding to a Thank You
The Yeah Buts
The Success Formula
Taking Things Too Personally
Common Sense
Shoulding on Others
Multiple Options
Thank You Notes
Announcing Your Honesty
We’ve had great response so far, with over 1800 views!  There are many more to come, so please let us know what you think. 

Log on to http://www.youtube.com/user/JMPerryLearning#p/u

If you want to DO WHAT YOU KNOW, you must equip yourself with the TOOLS to help you engage COMMON SENSE. 

  For You, Radio Worth Your Time! 

Applied Common Sense*
*Because common sense is very uncommon… (and you CAN fix stupid!)
The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Applied Common Sense* Because common sense is very uncommon… airs Saturdays from 9:00 am – 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, a lot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything — including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular… “Common Sense is very Uncommon!”
He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day’s events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics.

The number to call the studio live is toll free 
855- DR-PERRY (377-3779).

You can also listen to the show by logging on to http://www.kvta.com/ and then click on “LISTEN LIVE.”

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If I Knew Then What I Know Now… a thought for many of us, Dr. Perry has suggestions in this radio podcast.