If you think about your relationship with your mate, you might notice that you and/or your mate is really good at criticizing. Read more

You’ll notice that when you are stonewalling your need to avoid talking about it is more important than your need to resolve anything. Read more

Do you get defensive? Do you defend yourself all the time? If you do, then you’ll notice that very often you have to be right or make sure you avoid being wrong. Read more

If you think about your life, there are a handful of items that are really important: your health, your wealth, your sleep, your family, your relationships and your finances. Those are important. Read more

“The Benefit of the doubt,” when I hear people say that, I think it’s insane. In what way is there any benefit in doubt? Read more

Let someone know that you understand what’s going on. Often when someone is complaining to you or fussing about something, you will want to solve it with the illusion that if you offer up the gospel according to you, and deploy it just in time that you are going to get a “Thank You” note. Read more

When you feel sorry for yourself, in addition to wasting time, you are sucking life out of your relationship. When you say “Life isn’t fair,” the reality is that is correct, life is unfair. Read more

Love what you can love and let the rest go. Do you ever notice that you have a relative… a parent, a brother, a mother-in-law, someone who you care about and yet they drive you out of your mind? Read more

The final step to resolving conflict, once you have defined the problem, come up with multiple options, evaluated the options, chosen what you want to do and implemented the solutions is to follow up. Read more

In resolving conflict, once you have defined the problem, come up with multiple options, evaluated the options and chosen what you want to do, implementing is critical. Read more