If you want to change any kind of relationship, what you do is change yourself first.
In any situation around which there is conflict, there are a minimum of three options.
Instead of saying “to be quite honest” say “to be quite frank.”
When you change the “yeah buts” to “on the other hand” it is much less of a contest and people begin to listen.
Replace the word “should” with “I encourage you to…”
Replace the word “should” with “want” or “will” and you will see better results.
When you keep doing the same things over again and expect a different outcome that’s insanity.