Patch Adams —- This Saturday!!!

PATCH ADAMS! THAT’S RIGHT FROM THE MOVIE!…THE REAL PATCH ADAMS IS ON MY SHOW THIS COMING SATURDAY SEPTEMBER 1. He will discuss health care and other things during the first hour. That and more on my next radio show -Tune in to “THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW – Sat. mornings – 9:00-11:00am (PST)- KVTA AM 1520 on the radio or listen later to the podcast by going to and click on “Radio Show” -write me here now with your questions or call me on the air! toll free 855 DR PERRY (377-3779).

Dr. Perry’s “Prescriptions For Life”

In this podcast from my radio show I begin a series of programs where I offer expanded descriptions of my Prescriptions For Life. From “Shoulding On Yourself” to using “The Three Option Plan” when negotiating with a family member, boss or employee. This is the start of a fun and empowering program with listener participation. Enjoy!

August 2012

Do you ever notice how some people seem to be on a mission to drive you crazy?  They clearly appear to want you to enjoy their unhappiness — they suck energy and your joy.  

What do you do?  

Dr. Mitchell Perry

Dealing with Difficult People in Business

People can be difficult… and dealing effectively with people in business is crucial to your success. When you learn how to identify people’s behavior in business you are way ahead of the game, and your career (and sanity) will benefit enormously. These benefits can be of great value in the following circumstances:

1.   When applying for a job

2.   Asking for a promotion

3.   Maintaining balance and equilibrium on the job

4.   Gaining a new account

5.   Succeeding in the merger or acquisition of your company

6.   Navigating through the political waters at work

Let’s begin by identifying some popular difficult personality types.

     1.  The Hostile – This type includes:

  • The Bully – the boss or coworker or business contact who takes pleasure in running over you
  • The Sniper – the person who says something nasty and pretends to be innocent
  • The Exploder – Their favorite line is “Don’t make me mad,” so you are always on guard for an explosion.

     2. The Negative/Critical Complainer – Everything is always wrong, bad, awful and miserable. They are    professional whiners.

     3. The Unresponsive – They are silent, non-communicative, unemotional, and distant. It is impossible to tell what their position is on anything.

     4. The Indecisive – Perpetually ambivalent, uncommitted; they are afraid of making mistakes, being wrong, and being exposed.

     5. The Judge/Calculator – “Let me analyze this,” remaining critical, pejorative, everything is slightly flawed and imperfect.

     6. The Passive/Aggressive – Appearing compliant while sabotaging, undermining, and criticizing all the time.

 Sound familiar? What do you do about these types when you have to work with them, answer to them, persuade them?

Here are some effective strategies that you can use: (Remember that different types require different tools, and it is helpful if you can use many people tools in your tool box).

1.  Keep a smile going, remain strong, impervious to the manipulations (works well on the Negative Complainers).

2.   Remove yourself (when possible) from the difficult person (it’s a frustration when they are without an audience) (works on the Bully).

3. Validate their opinion before you counter with yours. They will be less difficult when they feel valued.

4. Listen first. Listening is the best way to get your point across. As Dr. Stephen Covey says in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, seek first to understand, then be understood (works on everyone, especially the Judge/Calculator).

5. Replace “Yeah But” in your dialog with “On the other hand.” This small change will calm down escalation of contests and conflicts.

6. Ask them to help you understand. People are less likely to be difficult   when asked for help (works on the Indecisive and Unresponsive).

7.  Reinforce their value following a criticism. People respond to what they heard last, therefore they will be less defensive.

8.  Engage in three or more options. People will be less contestual when there are multiple options available.

9.  Replace “you should” with “you might,” or “I encourage you to.” People get very difficult when they hear the word “should”.

10.  Expose the routine. Announce your confusion with mixed messages from them (sometimes effective on Passive/Aggressive).

Above all, maintain your power and your sense of humor. People can only wreck your day with your consent. Though certainly difficult people often appear to want you to enjoy their misery with them, keep in mind you can always allow them to enjoy their private party by themselves. Remember the movie, “War Games?” At the end of the movie, the computer concluded “The only way to win, is not to play.”   How true sometimes.

The Demise Of Guys

In this podcast of my radio show we discuss the troubling issue of today’s young men being more interested in surfing porn, playing online games and texting as opposed to taking on challenges like higher education, relationships and being the breadwinner in their family.

Operating From Strength

From Catastrophizing to Capitalizing: it’s all about operating from strength! In this podcast from my radio show I discuss the secret sauce for success with two highly motivated entrepreneurs.

Are We Special, or Do We Make Ourselves Special?

Fascinating conversation about today’s generation being raised as if they are special from the start. In this podcast from my radio show I discuss personal responsibility and entitlement. Along with my analysis and listener comments we air David McCullough Jr.’s outstanding High School Commencement Speech known as the “you’re not special” address. Enjoy!

The Perry Plan

Are you an emotional eater medicating with food?  That’s insane – would you take a laxative for a skin disorder?  No… so why would you eat a gallon of ice cream because you are lonely?  
It’s time to pull yourself together!

Dr. Mitchell Perry  

“Winning the Losing Game”

Something is clearly missing!  The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (“CDC”) says that a third of the country is currently obese.  Obesity is overtaking smoking as the biggest threat to our health and the numbers continue to rise every year!

Obesity raises the risk of heart disease, some cancers, diabetes, high blood pressure, and arthritis.  The CDC has concluded that obesity causes about 25,814 deaths annually in the United States.  Moreover, the financial costs to healthcare are staggering!

The price you pay for being overweight is huge!

Your self esteem
Your relationships
Your wallet
Your health
Your productivity
Your quality of life

The “Perry Plan” places the onus for losing weight back where it belongs — with the participant — rather than on quick fix diets du jour.  Instead of concentrating on what goes in your mouth, concentrate on what is between your ears!

So, how do you sabotage your own commitments to lose weight?  

Loss of control
Emotional or situational upset
You discount any improvements
Your defeatist attitude prevails
Lack of accountability either internal or external
Small setbacks trigger feelings of total failure
Learned helplessness and chronic powerlessness
Unable to stick with your commitments
Therefore, you give up and feel pessimistic!

The Solution:  THE PERRY PLAN.  It will give you the tools to insure your power to stick with your commitments to change your life for good:   

LOCOMOTION:  The power to move and keep moving.

OBSERVATION:  The skill to eat only when you are hungry.

The awareness of why you are eating.

MOTIVATION:  Inclusion – The OPTIMISM skill for POWER  to stick with your commitments.

RECOVERY FROM SETBACKS:  The power to get back in the saddle when you sabotage yourself.

At last, a proven program that will teach you to reprogram your state of mind to one of OPTIMISM and POWER.  When you are powerful you will stick with your commitments, lose weight, keep it off, and change your life for good.