Balancing Your Life

So you are in midlife and you notice life goes by so fast!
What’s the point? What really matters anyway?
Answer: Touching people’s lives and getting your life touched.

Dr. Mitchell Perry

Balancing Your Life

Most people want to be happy and successful. Ask yourself what that would mean to you. When you think of being quite happy what images come to mind? In addition, what does being very successful look like? Furthermore, what’s the point?

HAPPINESS IS CLOSENESS. When you think about experiences in life in which you were really happy, there were probably people in your memory and you were happy in large part because you felt CLOSE to those people. The closer you feel to people you care about, the happier you are. So, one objective in life is to establish, build, and maintain some quality and nourishing CLOSENESS in your relationships. Closeness is usually found and developed in your personal life.

SUCCESS IS ACHIEVEMENT. When you think of times in your life when you felt quite successful, you probably thought of things you achieved. Creating a goal and achieving it builds a solid sense of identity, strength, and autonomy. Continually achieving goals builds confidence and purpose which develops the self and creates independence. So, another objective in life is to continually realize success by realizing ACHIEVEMENTS. Success is usually found in your professional life.

CREATING BALANCE. Some form of balance between both dimensions of personal and professional life is essential for optimum success and happiness. People who are highly professionally successful (always achieving) but always personally unhappy (estranged, isolated, unconnected from people) are unbalanced on the success side. They often end up driven and angry. They must start creating valuable CLOSENESS to fix it.

Likewise, people who are personally very happy (close with significant people) yet very professionally unsuccessful (unable / unwilling to achieve anything) are unbalanced on the happiness side. They usually end up dependent, clingy, and fearful. They must begin to ACHIEVE things to fix it.

DEVELOP MEANING. Fulfillment in life comes when there is clear and evident meaning to your existence. Write down your basic governing values. Contribute something to society as part of paying the rent for your time here. Commit to something larger than yourself and watch the development of grace. Life is really about touching lives and getting your life touched as a result.

Develop closeness, commit to achieving, and life becomes balanced.

Then contribute to society in some way with your time, resources, and grace. Meaning emerges and so does fulfillment.

 Today’s Tickle
These are classified ads which were actually placed in U.K. newspapers:

 FREE PUPPIES 1/2 Cocker Spaniel, 1/2 sneaky neighbor’s dog. ________________________________________________
 FREE PUPPIES Mother is a Kennel Club registered German Shepherd.
 Father is a Super Dog, able to leap tall fences in a single bound. _____________________________________________________________
JOINING NUDIST COLONY! Must sell washer and dryer £100. _____________________________________________________________
WEDDING DRESS FOR SALE . Worn once by mistake. Call Stephanie. ___________________________________________________________
 And the WINNER is…
FOR SALE BY OWNER. Complete set of Encyclopedia Britannica, 45 volumes.
 Excellent condition, £200 or best offer.
 No longer needed, got married, wife knows everything.

Teamwork

Teamwork

I have been working with some of the biggest companies from around the world for over 35 years and inevitably I find that lack of productivity comes down to one thing — lack of Teamwork.

Teamwork is something that must be learned and practiced in order to be effective.  And just like top sport teams have to practice the skills, so do you in your professional lives.  I have noticed that most people are unaware of what really works when it comes to getting individuals to team.

Accepting and understanding the fact that people are different, and therefore, need to be treated as individuals is integral to the concept of teamwork.  The most successful teams recognize their differing member’s opinions, experiences, and working styles as a source of strength to the team.  Understanding the “style” of your teammates and applying them will increase levels of trust and credibility.

We have discovered what actually works when it comes to increasing team effectiveness.  I call it STAR-D.

START

TRUST

ASK

REINFORCE 

DIALOGUE

The STAR-D framework provides the skills to:

Shift the mindset from “you OR me” to “you AND me.”
Strengthen the “trust” between team members.
Capitalize on COOPERATION more than COMPETITION.
Reinforce the behaviors you wish to encourage.
Change the team dynamic through the use of language.
Empower your team by capitalizing on individual strengths.
Increase power.

Get results faster.
By learning and incorporating the skills of STAR-D the end result will be greater productivity and satisfaction for all team members.

Happy Holidays!

Hello Everyone,

Get your Merry on!

Dr. Mitchell Perry

 HO! HO! HO! JINGLE, JINGLE, JINGLE… OMG, IT’S KRIS KRINGLE!!!

It’s time for sleigh bells, and Santa, and children demanding,
Chocolates, and gingerbread… our waistlines expanding.

Off criticize, off chastise, and offload your Grinch,
On spiritize, on cheeryize – find your smile… it’s a cinch!

Your worry, your thrashing, your obsessing must leave,
With your family and friends, t’is the season to Believe.

As you imagine all day, your dreams warm and aglow,
Your lovee and you, smoochin’ ‘neath the mistletoe!

Fill the season with caroling, and be sure to be quick,
You know it’s for certain, you’ll be seen by St. Nick!

With Rudolph, and bubbly, and chestnuts together,
You can kick up your heels, and keep dancing forever!

As you think of the stockings, and tinsel, and bows, 
New clothes and shoes, from your head to your toes!

So start wrapping the presents, and hanging the holly,
Trimming the tree, and displaying your jolly!

Add the egg nog, the cakes, and the goodies gourmet,
You must join in the weight gain without further delay!

When your life is so touched, it’s the way of the heart,
You sure have touched ours, right from the start!

On our sleigh ride together, measure for measure,
Instead of “not bad”, it’s indeed been OUR PLEASURE! 

From all of us at JM PERRY, with abiding affection we bequeath,
For YOU and your MERRY, enjoy a smile, a hug, and a holiday wreath!

May you and yours have a VERY MERRY PERRY HOLIDAY!

MERRY MERRY FROM JM PERRY! 

November 2012

To get people to do what you want them to do, you must first position what you want in concert with what is important to them. 

Dr. Mitchell Perry

Communicating with Access Codes

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you meet someone and you get along with them easily?  Yet other times you meet someone and it seems to be uphill all the time.  You have to do lots of “maintenance” and getting along with them seems like a chore.  There are even times when you know someone for a long time and it is still always difficult to get along with them.  Why?  Because the people with whom you get along well are people who are wired like you, and the people with whom you have difficulty are wired differently.

Suppose you could understand more up front how people are wired and you could adjust your presentation and approach accordingly?  Getting along with people successfully is kind of like gaining “Access” to them.  When you understand their “Access Codes,” you can then inter-relate easily.

There are 8 Access Codes to consider when you approach people.  

The codes are:

Going Towards / Going Away
Trust / Suspicion
Strategic / Tactical
Warm-up / Direct
Empower / Control
Others / Self
Feelings / Facts
Process / Results

When you understand these codes and know how to use them, you will gain “ACCESS” much faster and get what you want.

For You, Radio Worth Your Time!

            Laugh, Learn, Live!

 “THE DR. MITCHELL PERRY SHOW”

Applied Common Sense*
*Because common sense is very uncommon…

The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show: Applied Common Sense* Because common sense is very uncommon… airs Saturdays from 9:00 am – 11:00 am (Pacific) on KVTA AM1520.  It is a little bit reasoning, a little bit education, a lot of laughs, and a whole lot of fun!  Every Saturday morning Dr. Perry takes calls LIVE on his radio show on everything — including relationships, business advice, personal growth, and the ever popular… “Common Sense is very Uncommon!”

He has a knack for saying it like it is without beating down his listeners.  You can be sure that if there is an answer to your problem, Dr. Perry will help you figure it out.  Listeners call in to get advice, discuss the day’s events or simply to give their opinion on the latest topics.

The number to call the studio live is toll free
855- DR-PERRY (377-3779).

If you missed the latest radio show or you want to hear Dr. Perry tackle your favorite topic once again, click on http://drmitchellperryshow.blogspot.com/ to find PODCASTS of The Dr. Mitchell Perry Show past radio shows.  
 

 Today’s Tickle
Will Rogers, who died in a 1935 plane crash, was one of the greatest political sages this country has ever known.  Here is what he had to say ABOUT GROWING OLDER…
First, eventually you will reach a point when you stop lying about your age and start bragging about it.
Second, the older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for.
Third, some people try to turn back their odometers.  Not me; I want people to know why I look this way.  I’ve traveled a long way, and some of the roads weren’t paved.
Fourth, when you are dissatisfied and would like to go back to youth, think of Algebra.
Fifth, you know you are getting old when everything either dries up or leaks.
Sixth, I don’t know how I got over the hill without getting to the top.
Seventh, one of the many things no one tells you about aging is that it’s such a nice change from being young.
Eighth, one must wait until evening to see how splendid the day has been.
Ninth, being young is beautiful, but being old is comfortable.
Tenth, long ago, when men cursed and beat the ground with sticks, it was called witchcraft.  Today it’s called golf.
And finally, if you don’t learn to laugh at trouble, you won’t have anything to laugh at when you’re old.  

Dr. Perry’s “Pet Peeves” Show

In this semi Annual “Pet Peeves” podcast of my radio show we have a whole lot of fun as listeners call-in with their favorite pet peeves.  I am sure you will find a couple that drive you nuts! A little bit of fun from Dr. Perry