Think about how you try to persuade anyone to do anything. Most of the time when you try to advise, recommend, urge, suggest, or persuade anyone to take your advice, you PUSH, you TELL, you routinely give answers. And, you may end up bewildered because very often, your answers are accurate and wise, you are well-intended, and your advice is in their best interest.
Here is something you have received from others many times over the span of your life:
- Can I give you some constructive criticism?
- May I offer some constructive criticism?
- I have some constructive criticism if you would like to hear it.
- How would you like to hear some constructive feedback about what you just did?
People can be difficult… and dealing effectively with people in business is crucial to your success. When you learn how to identify and deal more effectively with people’s behavior in business you are way ahead of the game, and your career (and sanity) will benefit enormously. These skills and benefits can be of great value in the following circumstances: Read more
Most people want to be happy and successful.
Ask yourself what that would mean to you. When you think about being quite happy what images come to mind? In addition, what does being very successful look like? Furthermore, what’s the point… where’s the meaning? Read more
Rarely do we get much guidance or training on how to best live life. Most of us bumble through in a trial-and-error mode. Many of us end up behaving like everyone else, which is often counter-productive and a perfect illustration of peer pressure at work. Read more
Being Popular vs. Being Respected
Your state of mind has a huge impact on the way you conduct yourself. Your ongoing beliefs determine a tremendous amount of the way you look at reality and apply those perspectives.Even if your beliefs are completely unreasonable, unrealistic, and irrational, you are likely to continue to proceed with your habits reflective of those beliefs. Therefore, before you begin to change your conduct, it is very important to first take an examination of your beliefs in the first place to determine if they are sane, reasonable, and realistic.
Examples of popular insane beliefs:
Regardless of how happy and fulfilling your marriage or relationship is, inevitably you will encounter difficulties and disappointments along the way. Often times it is either because you have become emotionally malnourished, you both feel unloved and/or unimportant, your relationship needs a tune-up, or perhaps the magic has faded. Most marriage partners fail to do the ongoing maintenance of the relationship to keep it healthy.
To rebuild a relationship that has gotten lost over the years, you must have a clear, compelling picture of the relationship you want. Then you both must commit to become equipped with the skills and habits to creating and maintaining that renewed and nourishing relationship.
A relationship lives in words and action, much like a play. If your relationship has become its own version of a bad play, then to make a better play (relationship), you must write and practice good scripts.
One way that you can create good marriage scripts is by figuring out what you and your partner want out of the relationship. In essence, it is time to “rewrite the screenplay.”
THE PERRY PLAN
STICKING WITH YOUR COMMITMENT