After more than four decades in the business of creating improved behavior and relationship and performance effectiveness, it has been routinely and abundantly clear that RESCUING AND FIXING OTHERS FAILS MOST OF THE TIME, in particular, when it is YOUR IDEA TO DO THE RESCUING! Read more
SOME PEOPLE ARE TALKERS; they just love to talk and keep on talking. They are able to change subjects at a moment’s notice, rarely completing one thought before starting another. Blah, Blah, Blah. You have probably known people like this.
WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?
How do you deal with these professional talkers? Most of the time, you probably wait for them to STOP TALKING. You may be concerned that you will be RUDE if you interrupt them, so you simply wait and hope they will stop… AND THEY KEEP TALKING! Read more
Remembering their names… we all have trouble with this one.
How often do you notice that you forget people’s names? You will be at a reception and meet someone, and he will say, “Hello, my name is Steve Harrison.” You will respond, “It is nice to meet you.” Then after five minutes of conversation you will have already forgotten his name. Red Alert!
How embarrassing! Now you feel stupid because you just met this guy and are unable to remember his name.
Are we becoming infected?
I am afraid sometimes that I am. Yikes!
The whining, the criticizing, the condemning, the blaming, the bellyaching, the awfulizing, the complaining, the catastrophizing, the obsessing… all delivered by so many victims and malcontents. Oh my, enough already!
For many decades, the media has routinely delivered the news and it has almost always been bad. Whether you see it, read it, or listen to it… it is 90% BAD NEWS.
One of the most important axioms of life is: LIFE IS OFTEN ABOUT LEARNING LESSONS, AND LESSONS WILL BE REPEATED UNTIL THEY ARE LEARNED.
This could clearly suggest that it would be COMMON SENSE to learn the lessons with all dispatch. On the other hand, common sense is very uncommon.
This axiom certainly seems to apply to most all of us, and if you think about the development of the human species over the last few thousand years, it can be successfully argued that these lessons continue to be repeated with entirely too little progress in the “LEARNING” department, particularly when it comes to how people conduct themselves around one another.
So, let’s take a look at how we might learn lessons sooner and more effectively in order to make faster course corrections and improvements in our lives.
Our nationwide problem:
- Americans are extremely overweight; 40% of us are obese, 2/3 of us are seriously overweight.
- We spend billions of dollars on quick-fix weight loss programs and it is getting worse.
- We continue the practice of insanity! We perform the same bad habit with the same poor outcome with the illusion that continuing the same habit will result in a different outcome.
Something is clearly missing!
When we were little, we loved to pretend. In fact, we really enjoyed playing “let’s pretend” with our friends. We associate having fun with those memories, and often still daydream and take pleasure in fantasizing about our lives, our future, and our circumstances.
The good news is that pretending is fun; it allows us to dream, fantasize, and believe in the magic. The bad news is, sometimes we hide in pretending as a method to avoid dealing with reality.
REMEMBER, there is always a gap between how life should be and how life is. That gap can be small or huge. When we pretend to excess, we imagine how life is supposed to be… and we often get lost in those imaginations. Read more
Below are statements gathered from dozens of people, ages 5 to 95, many of which were collected in Live and Learn and Pass it On, Volume II.
For your consideration:
I’ve learned… that the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person.
I’ve learned… that when you’re in love, and you find your smile, it shows.
HIRING for CHARACTER
What do you do when you have an important position to fill?
If you are like most people, you post an open position on your favorite job site or call the local recruiter with the specifications for the position.
How much do you really know about what you are getting when you plow through a mountain of resumes?
A resume can tell you whether the person is capable of performing the job. A resume is unable to tell you much about the person behind it.
Can you afford to make the wrong hiring decision? What do you do when you have to fire someone? Are you able to fire them or are they protected by a collective bargaining agreement, tenure or other reason? Read more