People will treat you how you teach them to treat you.  What that means is that you set the tone… if people are ignoring you, you’re probably helping them to do that.  If people are engaged by you, you’re probably helping them to do that. If you’re a “cold fish”, then you’re probably teaching people to be cold around you.  So think about the tone that you set.  What you radiate, you attract.  People will treat you how you teach them to treat you.  Think about what you want to teach them in the first place.  When you think about that, you’re going to change your behavior to a way in which you want people to respond towards you.  

If you are like most people in relationships, you spend an enormous amount of time trying to change somebody else.  As a matter of fact, in most American marriages, you’ll notice that at least 80% of them have at least one person in the marriage that is self-appointed to fix the other person.  And you’ll notice that the person who is presumably broken is completely unaware of it and has zero intention of being fixed.  If you really want to change any kind of relationship, what you do is change yourself first.  When you change your behavior, you have a lot more power over it and you are much more likely to now force people to behave differently.  So, change yourself first and you will see a by far, bigger cascade of change around you by everybody else.