Counter-productive Patterns of Speech

These are habits you have, the way you speak that is often a set-up for a let-down; you shoot yourself in the foot. One that comes to mind is called “putting your present intentions in the past tense”. What that means is you want to do something but you put it in the past tense that sounds like you wanted to do it. People will say, “I wanted to ask you,” “what I wanted to say was,” “I was getting ready to say.” When people say to me, “I wanted to ask you”. I often respond , “well, do you still want to ask me?” Because it is curious, if you say “I wanted to ask you, …” it sounds like you don’t anymore. So what you want to do is take the present intentions and put it in the present tense. So instead of saying “I just wanted to ask you …” say, “I want to ask you …” It makes a BIG difference and you have a lot more power.

Dr. Perry’s Men’s Weekend

Check out this podcast of my radio show where I chat with a group of men about career, family, and specifically, the women in their lives. From career to their personal lives these very successful men discuss the challenges they have had in their past. I then guide them through the possibilities for their future success and happiness. As always it is all about common sense.

Five Basic Steps to Success

Here are the five basic steps to do well at anything. If you remember these five steps you are going to really be successful at anything, in any context. They are:
      1. Show up on time – be there on time.
      2. Be nice to people – show some grace, some manners and some appreciation.
      3. Do what you say you will do – make sure you are going to deliver.
      4. Deliver more than you promise – dazzle them with something more than what’s expected.
      5. Do it with energy and passion.

 When you do those five things you’ll be struck to see how employable you’ll be; how successful you are, and how the money rolls in.

Strength Of Character.

Today’s podcast is all about character. The good news for all of us is: character is under our direct control. We are responsible for our actions and the results they bring. We have all heard the stories about stars who lost their fortune, philandering College Football Coach’s, overbearing parents in children’s sports, the list goes on and on. Listen to this podcast with Dr. Perry reflecting on news stories of the week along with conversations from listeners. It’s all about your character!

Do It with Energy and Passion

If you are going to do something, do it like you are really excited. When you actually attach energy and passion to something then all your pistons start firing and you dazzle everybody. Enthusiasm is a very infectious quality and the more enthusiastic you are about something, the more you are going to be attracting people who want to hire you and keep you employed. Therefore, do it with energy and passion, you’ll get everybody’s attention and you’ll have a great time at the same time.

Has The “Politically Correct” Movement Gone Too Far?

On This podcast from The Dr. Perry Radio Show, Dr. Perry discusses our Politically Correct Society, is it healthy? Or are we a bit too sensitive and it’s about time we stopped taking things so personally? An excellent discussion with in-studio guests and callers too. Dr. Perry addresses the Mary J Blige Burger King commercial, McDonald’s Happy Meal lawsuits along with a look at What’s the News What’s The Lesson”. Plus Dr. Perry’s “Applied Sense of Humor. All in this enlightening and provocative podcast.

Speak in Inclusion: The Road to Optimism

When you change your language, you will change your life. Tell it like it is!
Dr. Mitchell Perry

Speak in Inclusion: The Road to Optimism
If you could live the rest of your life more optimistically or pessimistically, which would you choose? I’ve asked that question of thousands of people in a dozen countries around the world and they always say the same thing – OPTIMISTICALLY. Why? Because most everyone suspects that living optimistically is better all around. The research shows that people who are more optimistic live longer, are healthier, recover faster from setbacks, lead happier lives, and are up to 50% more productive.

So, if all that is true, and most of us would prefer to be optimistic, how can we learn to do it?

I have found a method that works: Speak in the Language of Inclusion!

Consider this: most children up to age 12 are generally much more optimistic than adults. Then consider how they speak. They talk about what everything IS… “It’s great, it’s neat, it’s awesome, it’s stupid, it’s boring, it’s awful, it’s the bomb.” Kids speak this way all the time. They say what it IS, even when they are speaking about something they dislike.

Grownups on the other hand speak in Exclusion 90% of the time. They talk about what everything is NOT… “It’s not bad, it’s not a problem, it’s not as bad as it looks, I have no argument, if nothing gets in our way, no problem, there’s not a day that goes by that I don’t want to, I don’t see any reason why you can’t, why don’t you…

If you start noticing your speech, you will notice your language is in EXCLUSION most of the time. Is it possible that this exclusionary language is also affecting your outlook?

If you are always talking about what is NOT there (what is missing) then it’s quite difficult to be optimistic. Could it be that your habit of language is actually keeping you pessimistic?

So, what to do? Learn a lesson from children and CHANGE YOUR LANGUAGE TO INCLUSION. Simply look for the word “not” in your language and replace it with something inclusive. Instead of “no problem,” say “it’s a pleasure.”

Instead of “why don’t we,” say “how about we.” Instead of “I don’t disagree,” say “I agree.” Instead of “not only that,” say “in addition to that.”

You will be amazed over time to see how this small change in your language will have a powerful effect on you and your outlook on life. Simply say what it IS instead of what it is NOT.

So, if you want to be more optimistic, change your language and change your life… Tell it like it is!