Resolving Conflicts – Them vs. Us
Consider that we are all in this together.
Listening
Listening is so essential in marriages, between supervisors and supervisees, and between customer service reps and the market. Very often surveys point to the fact that people really fail to listen. What we need to do is spend more time listening. The way you do it is you listen to what people are saying to you and then you play back what they said, particularly when it is important. So somebody says something and you say, “Let me see if I understand what you are saying, what you are saying to me is… this or that.” When you play back to the person what you thought they said, particularly in the beginning of important conversations you are much more likely to get on track and people will get a lot less defensive.
The Perry Plan
Are you an emotional eater medicating with food? That’s insane – would you take a laxative for a skin disorder? No… so why would you eat a gallon of ice cream because you are lonely?
It’s time to pull yourself together!
Dr. Mitchell Perry
THE PERRY PLAN
“Winning the Losing Game”
Something is clearly missing! The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (“CDC”) says that a third of the country is currently obese. Obesity is overtaking smoking as the biggest threat to our health and the numbers continue to rise every year!
Obesity raises the risk of heart disease, some cancers, diabetes, high blood pressure, and arthritis. The CDC has concluded that obesity causes about 25,814 deaths annually in the United States. Moreover, the financial costs to healthcare are staggering!
The price you pay for being overweight is huge!
Your self esteem
Your relationships
Your wallet
Your health
Your productivity
Your quality of life
The “Perry Plan” places the onus for losing weight back where it belongs — with the participant — rather than on quick fix diets du jour. Instead of concentrating on what goes in your mouth, concentrate on what is between your ears!
So, how do you sabotage your own commitments to lose weight?
Loss of control
Emotional or situational upset
You discount any improvements
Your defeatist attitude prevails
Lack of accountability either internal or external
Small setbacks trigger feelings of total failure
Learned helplessness and chronic powerlessness
Unable to stick with your commitments
Therefore, you give up and feel pessimistic!
The Solution: THE PERRY PLAN. It will give you the tools to insure your power to stick with your commitments to change your life for good:
LOCOMOTION: The power to move and keep moving.
OBSERVATION: The skill to eat only when you are hungry.
The awareness of why you are eating.
MOTIVATION: Inclusion – The OPTIMISM skill for POWER to stick with your commitments.
RECOVERY FROM SETBACKS: The power to get back in the saddle when you sabotage yourself.
At last, a proven program that will teach you to reprogram your state of mind to one of OPTIMISM and POWER. When you are powerful you will stick with your commitments, lose weight, keep it off, and change your life for good.
How you overcome a guilt trip
Sometimes people will make you feel guilty to try to get what they want. Somebody might say, “If you really cared about me you would be here this weekend.” Well, you ever notice that you feel guilty and you are likely to cave in and do their bidding? So how do you overcome that? What you do is divide up the message, after they say it. So, if they say, “If you really cared about me you would be here this weekend.” What you say is, “What are we talking about, how much I care about you or are we talking about the fact that you want me here this weekend? “ When you do it that way, the person is likely to get immobilized at which point you can actually solve the problem without feeling guilty. The key is to off-load the guilt to get to the real point so you can be less hostage to feeling so bad.
Applied Common Sense – Life is as it is
Accept life as it is.
Manipulation
Dealing with Depression
Recover as quickly as possible with regular exercise.
Open Phones on the Dr. Perry Show!
Listeners call-in on a variety of topics including weight loss on this podcast from my radio show.