Change your wording from “benefit of the doubt” to “trust.”
Losing Weight – Eating Paradigm
How often do you eat when what you really want is connection? How often is eating over a social event like lunch or time with the family? Most of the time when people are eating for connection purposes, they are mindlessly eating because what they really want is to be connected with other people. So start paying attention to how often you are using connection as an excuse to eat. You will notice that you really do want to spend more time connecting with people and it is really unnecessary to overeat. So spend more time on connection and less time on over-stuffing, you’ll start noticing more control.
Losing Weight – Learning How to Overcome Pessimism
Most people who have trouble losing weight and more important, keeping it off, generally feel pessimistic. So how do you overcome your pessimism? You have to reprogram your state of mind to be one of more optimistic and powerful because most people when they feel pessimistic generally give up, feel defeated, and sabotage their diet. You want to learn how to change your state of mind by changing your language from what it is not to what it is. So instead of saying “diets never work,” you would say “sticking to a diet is a challenge.” Instead of saying, “I can’t eat that,” say, “I can eat this.” Concentrate on changing your language. Talk about what it is instead of what it is not and then you will see by far better results.
Empathy
Let someone know that you understand what is going on.
Losing Weight – Move
If you are going to lose weight, you know you have to exercise more and eat less. When you want to move, you want to spend more time doing something with your heart and with your muscles. So park farther away from the store or take the stairs instead of the elevator, take a walk with your loved ones, take a run, take a swim or some form of movement. If you get into the habit of moving on a regular basis you are going to increase your heart rate and you’re going to lose more weight. Plus, you are going to live longer and be healthier. So move, move, move. Put your sneakers on and get going!
Losing Weight
One of the ways people can really improve their ability to lose weight and keep it off is to monitor the way they feel at the time that they eat. When you put gas in your car, you only do it when the gauge tells you that you are low. Rarely would you ever over-fill it. As a matter of fact, it seems kind of dumb to do that. So, if it is dumb to over-fill your gas tank, why would you over-fill yourself? Think about the gauge. Think about when you are hungry, when you are content, when you are full and when you are stuffed. If you start taking inventory of your gauge, you are much more likely to stop eating when you are full without feeling deprived. So pay attention to the gauge that way you’ll be unlikely to over-stuff.
Love What You Can Love
Love what you can love and let the rest go.
Losing Weight
If you are like more than half the population out there, you are over-weight. One in three is obese in this country; two out of three is seriously over-weight. This means that if you are slim and in shape, then you are the exception! Well, that has changed in the last 30 years. Now, virtually everybody is over-weight. What do you do about it? The first thing you need to do is take responsibility for the way you are living your life. Your health is at risk and you generally avoid doing the things you really like to do because you are over-weight. So take more responsibility for now deciding to do something about it and start anew!
Teamwork
Teamwork
I have been working with some of the biggest companies from around the world for over 35 years and inevitably I find that lack of productivity comes down to one thing — lack of Teamwork.
Teamwork is something that must be learned and practiced in order to be effective. And just like top sport teams have to practice the skills, so do you in your professional lives. I have noticed that most people are unaware of what really works when it comes to getting individuals to team.
Accepting and understanding the fact that people are different, and therefore, need to be treated as individuals is integral to the concept of teamwork. The most successful teams recognize their differing member’s opinions, experiences, and working styles as a source of strength to the team. Understanding the “style” of your teammates and applying them will increase levels of trust and credibility.
We have discovered what actually works when it comes to increasing team effectiveness. I call it STAR-D.
START
TRUST
ASK
REINFORCE
DIALOGUE
The STAR-D framework provides the skills to:
Shift the mindset from “you OR me” to “you AND me.”
Strengthen the “trust” between team members.
Capitalize on COOPERATION more than COMPETITION.
Reinforce the behaviors you wish to encourage.
Change the team dynamic through the use of language.
Empower your team by capitalizing on individual strengths.
Increase power.
Get results faster.
By learning and incorporating the skills of STAR-D the end result will be greater productivity and satisfaction for all team members.