Let someone know that you understand what’s going on. Often when someone is complaining to you or fussing about something, you will want to solve it with the illusion that if you offer up the gospel according to you, and deploy it just in time that you are going to get a “Thank You” note. Read more
Effective Selling – Buy/Sell
People love to buy stuff.
Roadblocks to Improvement
When you feel sorry for yourself, in addition to wasting time, you are sucking life out of your relationship. When you say “Life isn’t fair,” the reality is that is correct, life is unfair. Read more
Embrace the Obvious
When you have a dilemma in your life, the solutions, the answers, the strategies, and the magic are in the OBVIOUS – and yet the OBVIOUS is OBVIOUS to everyone but you!
It’s Common Sense and remember, Common Sense is very Uncommon.
Dr. Mitchell Perry
Embrace the Obvious
One of the most curious things about people is their difficulty in recognizing what’s right in front of their faces. Do you ever notice that when you are looking for your keys, they are in your hand? Or when you want to find your glasses, they are sitting right on top of your head? If there is one thing I have learned in life, it is this: “THE MAGIC IS IN THE OBVIOUS.” That means: the answer to your dilemma is often right in front of your face. Your job is to look and find it. Then… DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
Example: If you tend to be pessimistic, how much time are you spending complaining or feeling sorry for yourself?
If your business is doing poorly, how much are you contributing to poor customer service? How much are you actually helping the customer be dissatisfied?
If your marriage is one where you feel emotionally malnourished, how much are you withholding nourishment yourself? Or expecting nourishment from a spouse who is ill equipped to give it to you?
If you are tired going up a flight of stairs, how much do you need to lose weight and get in shape?
The answers are often so obvious that we have trouble seeing them. What is even more curious is that everyone else can see what’s right in front of you except you.
So, what to do?
- Ask yourself regularly, “What is obvious here? What do I need to see? What can everyone else see here that might be difficult for me to see or accept?”
- ASK FOR HELP. Often you are so close to it, it becomes impossible to see the obvious. So, ask someone for whom you have respect and trust, “Help me see what is going on here… it is likely to be obvious and I am unable to see it.”
- Then do something about it! CHANGE SOMETHING… your behavior, your contribution, your relationships, your habits, something… anything! Do something different and the situation will change.
So the message is this: Embrace the Obvious! There’s magic when you recognize what is right in front of your face, THEN DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT!
Today’s Tickle
PUN0GRAPHY
· I tried to catch some fog. I mist.
· When chemists die, they barium.
· Jokes about German sausage are the wurst.
· A soldier who survived mustard gas and pepper spray is
now a seasoned veteran.
· I know a guy who’s addicted to brake fluid. He says he can stop any time.
· How does Moses make his tea? Hebrews it.
· I stayed up all night to see where the sun went. Then it dawned on me.
· This girl said she recognized me from the vegetarian club, but I’d never met herbivore.
· I’m reading a book about anti-gravity. I can’t put it down.
· I did a theatrical performance about puns. It was a play on words.
· They told me I had type A blood, but it was a type-O.
· This dyslexic man walks into a bra .
· PMS jokes aren’t funny, period.
· I didn’t like my beard at first. Then it grew on me.
· A cross-eyed teacher lost her job because she couldn’t control her pupils.
· When you get a bladder infection, urine trouble.
· What does a clock do when it’s hungry? It goes back four seconds.
· I wondered why the baseball was getting bigger. Then it hit me!
· Broken pencils are pointless.
· What do you call a dinosaur with an extensive vocabulary? A thesaurus.
· England has no kidney bank, but it does have a Liverpool .
· I used to be a banker, but then I lost interest.
· I dropped out of communism class because of lousy Marx.
· All the toilets in London police stations have been stolen. Police say they have nothing to go on.
· I took the job at a bakery because I kneaded dough.
· Velcro – what a rip off!
· Cartoonist found dead in home. Details are sketchy.
Common Sense – Time
Make the Time
Love What You Can Love and Let the Rest Go
Love what you can love and let the rest go. Do you ever notice that you have a relative… a parent, a brother, a mother-in-law, someone who you care about and yet they drive you out of your mind? Read more
Relationship Foundations – Discipline
Resolving Conflict
The final step to resolving conflict, once you have defined the problem, come up with multiple options, evaluated the options, chosen what you want to do and implemented the solutions is to follow up. Read more
Relationship Foundations – Trust
Trust is the foundation of any relationship.
Resolving Conflict – Implement
In resolving conflict, once you have defined the problem, come up with multiple options, evaluated the options and chosen what you want to do, implementing is critical. Read more